Finding the courage to be vulnerable can be one of the most terrifying things imaginable. It requires a certain level of authenticity that many are afraid to reach for. Many don’t share those intimate parts of themselves for valid reasons. The fear that they may be judged, gossiped about, ostrisized, or rejected tends to override the basic human need for vulnerability. This can happen in romantic relationships, friendships, with family, or even casual aquaintances. It leads you into uncharted waters where you have to take a leap of faith, and pray that you don’t crash and burn. You must take chances in order to achieve vulnerability. It takes a willingness to be vulnerable in order to pursue the relationship you desire. It takes a willingness to be vulnerable to shed yourself of everything you are not, and become who you are. That doesn’t mean mustering up the courage to be vulnerable will be comfortable, but it is definitely required for growth (Brown, 2010). If you lean on the Lord 100% then there’s no reason to fear vulnerability.
In Brene Brown’s TED Talk The Power of Vulnerability, she describes some of the qualities of those who have the courage to be vulnerable. In countless interviews she found that those who were vulnerable “…talked about the willingness to say, ‘I love you’ first …the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees…They’re willing to invest in a relationship. They thought this was fundamental.” They also displayed four qualities that were key in their ability to just let go, and be. They had:
1. The courage to be imperfect
2. The compassion to be kind to themselves first, then others (you can’t be kind to others unless you can be kind to yourself)
3. They achieved social connection as a result of authenticity.
Be willing to let go of who you think you should be in order to be who you are.
4. They embraced vulnerability.
Know that what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.
So stop being chronically afraid of others seeing who you really are. Don’t let fear rule you. Dont let the fear of vulnerability rule you. Step out on faith. Believe that whatever happens will work out okay. You must rest assured that if what you desire doesn’t work out, that you can just try again. You’ll keep yourself from having the best in life if you don’t take a chance.